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Some Thoughts About Feelings

Feelings often occupy the focus in psychotherapy. Often I will ask my clients how they feel; often they will either speak of or show their feelings, particularly the distressing ones. I have been thinking about feelings lately and it occurs to me that there are different types – I’m inclined to say species – of […]

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The Goals of Psychotherapy (It’s Not All About Happiness)

I recently came upon the following passage in a journal article. The writer, Muriel Dimen, a psychoanalyst practicing in New York, quotes from an early pioneer of psychoanalysis, someone in the inner circle with Freud, and alludes to the writer Franz Kafka. Here’s the passage that caught my eye: “Ferenczi writes, ‘It is not within […]

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Remembering MLK

On this national day of remembering Dr. Martin Luther King, I want to take a moment to think about him. He is, in my humble opinion, not only one of the truly great Americans in our history, but he is one of the truly great human beings in all of history. There is so much […]

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End of the Year Thoughts

In many ways, for many people, it has been a difficult year. The economy continues to present serious challenges to individuals and families. People struggle to maintain their homes, their jobs. Indeed our entire country and our collective sense of resurgence and recovery have been threatened and battered. There have been this year terrible natural […]

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Time to Move On

I have a pet peeve to admit to: just about every time I hear the phrase “It’s time to move on” uttered, I get shivers down my spine, a reaction akin to the proverbial nails on a chalkboard. Not infrequently the phrase is uttered by politicians. And it seems to me not infrequently it is […]

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A Two-Prong Approach to Healing

There is a lot of talk these days, when there is talk about psychotherapy, about Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and its effectiveness. It seems that CBT has achieved some recognition in the American media. Although I am not strictly a CBT psychotherapist, but rather someone who takes an eclectic approach so as to be able to […]

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Therapy Is Not Just Sitting There and Nodding

It seems like a New Yorker cartoon. The psychotherapist in his chair and the client usually lying down on a couch. In this cliché version of psychotherapy, the therapist doesn’t say much, just nods and mutters “uh ha.” The client pays for the session and leaves. I am sure that my clients know that I […]

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Truly a Delicate Balance

I saw the Aurora Theatre Company’s production of Pulitzer Prize winning playwright Edward Albee “A Delicate Balance” and highly recommend it. (It has been extended till October 23, 2011.) The play is deeply psychological. Although somewhat dark, it is not only movingly performed by a superb cast, but it also features incredible writing by one […]

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To Shrink or Not To Shrink

Members of my profession are sometimes casually referred to as shrinks. While it seems this term was originally used to refer to psychiatrists, its application is more broadly applied these days. I’ve had clients refer to me as their shrink. So I’ve been thinking about “shrink.” It seems the first use of the term as […]

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Why the Past Matters

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to fulfill it.” — George Santayana The above is perhaps one of the most famous quotations known today. It is it strikes me keenly psychological. The philosopher George Santayana was a contemporary of Freud’s (I don’t know if they knew one another or their work). He was […]

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